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Restroom Introvert

Well. Judging from the post title, this may not be a topic you want to read about. I don’t intend to gross people out with descriptions, but if you find discussion on bodily functions in restrooms to be revolting, this is your chance to hit the back button now.

I’m lucky that I have always been fine with using public restrooms. As a child I went into the same stall as my mother and both of us took our turns on the toilet before flushing. A few times in the past when it was just me and my dad, he would check the men’s restroom first and if it was empty of occupants, he would usher me inside to use a stall in there. I semi-recall being confused by the sight of the urinals since women’s restrooms didn’t have those.

At home, it felt totally normal to have instances where either or both of my parents were brushing their teeth and/or running the sink while I was on the toilet. It made for a comical, weird scene. My discomfort over the way things were slowly became apparent when I got to be around 8 or 9. It was about the same time as when I grew uncomfortable with sleeping with my bedroom door open and needed either of my parents to close it for me after they helped me get ready for bed.

I guess the older I got, I developed more of a self-conscious awareness of my surroundings? I was no longer as forthcoming with unlocking the bathroom door if I was inside and my mom knocked in order to be let in. I can’t remember ever having a conversation with her about it, except I found a loophole in changing things by simply finishing up in the bathroom, and only then, unlocking the door for her.

The first time I ever went into a public restroom on my own was an awkward experience. My mom was away in some store nearby at the time I was led to the women’s restroom by my dad. I pushed the door to get in and inside was a long line. Ahead of me were two women who smiled at me. They occasionally threw me looks of sympathy or interest; I wasn’t sure which. I think I was more freaked about how short I was in comparison to them and the long wait. They seemed curious over seeing that I was alone and asked where my mom was. Right after I answered them, I moved away slightly as the door was pushed open by another woman coming in to wait on the line. Using a restroom stall on my own, the whole space seemed so much bigger. After I came out to wash my hands, I ran into the two women again. They made eye contact with me and continued smiling at me as I coincidentally exited the restroom at the same time as they did. Outside, I spotted my dad. My memory is fuzzy, but the women said something to him about me. I guess it was a good thing??

Now that I think about it, the togetherness of friends going to the restroom together is a herd mentality I don’t get. Do I really need to hear my friends pee and for them to hear me pee too? No, but a couple of times I’ve just needed to go at the same time as them. Also, why do people hold a conversation while peeing? I don’t understand. The one time I felt okay with it was when a woman in the next stall to mine didn’t have any toilet paper and asked if I could pass her some. I used to think toilet paper in public restrooms were incredibly cheap looking but now I realize they’re probably so thin to allow for easier flushing down the toilet.

I’ll be frank. The one thing I will probably never be 100% used to in a public restroom, particularly a really busy one with multiple stalls in use, is the various sounds of peeing or pooping going on. I’m never afraid to “go” while other women are in the same restroom as me, although I do have moments of feeling awkward. Like those times when I go into a stall at the same time as a stranger and it’s so quiet until the silence is broken by either of us, lol. Mostly I try to be understanding of whatever bodily functions I hear. We’re all human and can’t help it if our bodies make strange noises at weird times. As much as I would like to be an ethereal unicorn who poops rainbows, I am not. πŸ˜”

It’s common to utilize the next stall that becomes available, particularly in busier restrooms where people are always going in and out and there’s no room to be choosy. It’s usually not so bad, but I cannot stand those who flush and leave the stall without wiping down the toilet seat to remove their leftover pee splatter. Disgusting!! It’s just there when I enter the stall and suddenly I am responsible for cleaning up someone else’s mess. In more vacant restrooms with more open stalls, I always check first and if it’s gross, I move on to a different stall.

I hate dealing with stalls not closing properly or ones without hooks on the door for hanging belongings. Sometimes jammimg a balled-up wad of toilet paper in the broken lock helps. Without a door hook for my stuff, it’s a balancing act of keeping my bag strap on my shoulder while using the toilet.

Some single restrooms in cafes require passcodes. The practice seems to vary from store to store. In at least one, I’ve overheard the cashier specifically state to a customer that it must be obtained from the receipt after a store purchase. In others, people just ask for the code and get it. I do fear being turned away if I ask, and as dumb as it sounds, I have sometimes worked around that by waiting outside after someone has gone in so when the person exits later, I can get in without the passcode.

My worst beef with these types of restrooms is they’re often not very tidy. Either there’s no more toilet paper, the wastebasket is overflowing, toilet paper and debris is all over the floor, or the toilet itself doesn’t flush properly. For goodness sake, if customers need to go to the trouble of inputting a code to get in, at least can the store make their restroom cleaner?

The three essentials I always carry with me are dry tissues, a travel size perfume spray, and some wet wipes. You never know when desperate times call for desperate measures in a public restroom. Once I was in a park restroom with no toilet paper. Luckily I had my tissue packets. I felt bad thinking about whoever might be using the stall after me, so I left a packet on the toilet paper dispenser. Believe me, I’ve been in past situations where I had no choice but to “air-dry” after peeing and it was not fun. I wouldn’t wish it on another person.

The absolute worst restroom scenario is using a porta potty. In my experience, the ones I encountered have no flush capacity, though there are flushable porta potties in existence. Very recently I got lost at a side of a park I wasn’t familiar with and really needed to pee. Like ASAP because my bladder kept pushing at me. Into the porta potty I went and… It was horrible. Let’s just say it left a searing impression and took me a while after this to forget what I had seen. 😨 Anyway, I did my business and left. A few minutes later a female jogger make a pit stop in the same stall before popping out with gagging expression on her face.

Once in another country many years ago, I used a squat toilet. It was definitely different than what I was used to. I had been so preoccupied with maintaining my balance over the toilet that I barely heard a woman shouting at someone on her way out of the restroom. Only after I finished and was ready to leave the stall, mortification struck me. The stall door was ajar; meaning I didn’t lock it properly and the woman who presumably walked past had seen me. I can’t believe I unintentionally flashed a total stranger! 😱

Featured Image by Tom Rogerson.

15 thoughts on “Restroom Introvert

  1. hahahahaha. I have to say I LOVE this but it was not what I expected but your view on it matches mine (except I never wanted to be in a toilet with anyone at home, lol) but it is true yet funny and I just really enjoyed the perspective! Thank you! πŸ™‚

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    1. Glad you enjoyed my post. ☺ The subject manner of toilets can be awkward but it’s a part of human life too. I feel similarly about using the toilet while other people are home. Especially with thin walls, though I usually try to remember that everyone goes to the bathroom at some point lol.

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  2. Hahahahahaha that’s really nice of you to leave the tissues for the next person! I think what’s good about what I do in public bathrooms is I usually don’t have to worry about lack of toilet paper because I use the toilet paper first to pad up the seat before sitting, so I notice right away if there’s none. I can’t squat over the toilet. It’s so hard for me and the pee just drips down and… yeah, unpleasant. I’ve ranted about public bathrooms before on my other blog xD I don’t get what people do in there sometimes! Like… I’m trying to poop in peace here, can you have your phone conversation elsewhere or brush your teeth faster? I am still going to do the deed but I’d prefer to have some privacy. Port-o-potties are definitely gross! Airplane bathrooms are basically the same thing, haha.

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    1. Yep, I hope the next person saw the tissues I left and utilized them! I too pad the seat before I pee. It feels seriously weird to try to hover over the toilet and make my pee aim into it, so padding the seat beforehand and being able to sit down is way better. The only times I hover is if the dispenser has no toilet paper and unfortunately I have to conserve the few tissues I have on me. πŸ˜• Pee dripping down is a real struggle!!

      It is disruptive when people have conversations in restrooms. It’s also awkward when it’s not a phone conversation but two people actually talking in front of the sink/mirror and then I come out of the stall feeling as if I’m intruding on their moment. Ugh, and those tv shows or movies that always have a character sitting onto of the toilet lid as if it’s not full of microscopic germs and bacteria. That is so nasty! 😨

      Oh man, I forgot about airplane bathrooms being kinda icky. It’s been so long since I’ve been on one that I forgot what they’re like. What I do recall is airplane bathrooms having a distinctly sterile afterodor that I never liked at all.

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      1. Yeah it’s nasty when I see people just sitting on the toilet as if it’s a chair in tv and movies, like the scene when there’s no one to sit with in the cafeteria… so they go to the bathroom to eat?! Gross…

        I know the odor you speak of! You’re going to be on a long plane ride soon so you’ll probably be reminded soon of the icky airplane bathrooms unfortunately… ><

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  3. Haha.
    This post made remember the one time Jasper walked in a toilet at work, but his colleague forgot to lock the toilet. Embarrassing.

    I don’t use public toilets unless it’s a fancy restaurant or hotel.
    It’s very difficult on road trips!

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    1. Walking in on someone on the toilet is never fun. Yikes. I fear getting walked in on for the times I’ve used a stall with a broken lock.

      That’s good you stick to restrooms from reputable places. It will save you the trouble of not being able to unsee some vile things. 😣


  4. I’ve done a lot of travelling and have had some pretty wild toilet experiences. Once I was in a moving train trying to hold my bag and balance over a squat hole in the floor, while trying not to fall onto the urine-covered floor. I’ve also had explosive diarrhea in public washrooms. I felt very bad for the people who had to listen to me, but there wasn’t much I could do about it.

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    1. Yuck, urine covered floor! 😰 Some people can be so gross…

      Hearing explosive diahrrea is hard but it also sucks for the person going through that. Once I had such a bad case of a very upset stomach during high school. It was terribly inconvenient as I ended up stinking the whole restroom and someone sprayed perfume to clear the smell. I was so embarrassed I didn’t leave the stall until after I was completely alone in the restroom.

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  5. I have heard of squat toilets, but thank god I have never experienced one.

    Yes, I can relate going in a stall and all being quiet till someone pees, so you not alone on that one.

    I can remember seeing my first urinal at a young age and asking what it was. I was told and I understood, but my same thinking response then is the same as now – Why? Just pee in the toilet with the cubical closed. If you can live without them at home, why pee in one of those and in public?

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    1. Urinals are so weird! I don’t understand why it’s necessary. Especially how men even deal with peeing next to someone in the restroom like that. Personally if I were a man, I would prefer the privacy of a cubicle.

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      1. I would be the same, if I was a bloke.

        I have always been a very private person. I remember at a very young age, which I was at Playschool then, I did not like it when the teacher peered back checking on me. I understood as a child. But I still did not like it.
        I wasn’t at Playgroup long, as mum stopped me from going with saying I did not like it. She didn’t force me to go, when I said that.
        Years later, I asked my mum if I ever gave a reason of not liking it and mm said no, so I filled her in and said it more likely because of that.


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