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Anxiety Blog Guest Post

Recently I did a guest post for the You, Me and Anxiety blog, where people submit their own stories about their mental health with a honest and humorous spin to it. The idea is to bring awareness to mental health while also not diminishing the seriousness of it, but make it more accessible to those who do not necessarily struggle with anxiety, depression, OCD, bipolar, etc.

You can find my post submission here on the You, Me and Anxiety blog. Feel free to browse around the other user submitted posts there, or contact the blog admin if you want to submit your own story!


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10 thoughts on “Anxiety Blog Guest Post

  1. It was a great story! Well, a sucky situation, but well told. I liked the conclusion–the assertion that you did what was right. I agree that you made the right move! If he doesn’t make you feel comfortable, he’s not doing whatever he’s doing right. Also… awk… asking for your ethnicity in like five minutes? Geez. He does seem like a bit of a sketch character. And I don’t like that he acted like he had the right to your number. TAKE IT LIKE A CHAMP AND BRUSH IT OFF AND MOVE ON, the lady said no!

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    1. I had suspicions the conversation was going badly but then it went even further south when he asked for my ethnicity and then proceeded to say, “I love Asian people.” 😂 That just came off as a little creepy to me. I wasn’t offended he asked me for my ethnicity, but what he said sounded like it was a microaggression. I don’t know if I was being too sensitive or not. The way he told me that I was going to give him my number was also just weird. It sounded either he rehearsed it or he was being too aggressive because he knew I didn’t seem interested. Then he had the audacity to look at me (after he walked off) as if I did something wrong by declining his offer. Okay, I admit I could have been nicer about it and added a, “I’m sorry but…” before I said what I said. I guess I was too distracted with wanting to make him go away asap but also kinda being scared to assert myself fully?

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      1. Um the Asian people line is DEFINITELY creepy and his asking you ethnicity is DEFINITELY a microaggression. I’m really big on the whole DO NOT ASK ME WHERE I’M FROM point. I hate that. And yeah, his pride was hurt so he was all aggressive about asking for your number. And again, he doesn’t have the right to your number just for asking. And it seems like he can’t read the signs that well and take your responses in a non-reproachful manner… not a gentleman at all. No need for you to feel guilty cause you didn’t really owe him anything! You probably were on defensive mode which HE put YOU on, so no biggie. It’s understandable imo.

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      2. Personally, yes, I do feel singled out when people ask where I’m from because on an unspoken level it translates to me as, “okay, so you think I’m a foreigner?” But I sometimes wonder if I’m reading too much into it. I can see maybe for some people they ask because they are genuinely curious and it’s not that they’re fishing for my background/ethnicity. But trying to guess is just as bad lol.

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      3. Of course! It’s definitely a microaggression. I’m sensitive about being an Asian-American because I don’t feel like I belong to either Asia or America rather than feel like I belong to both. I stand out as an American in Asia and in America they only see me as Asian. I don’t think you’re reading too much into it. Also what business is it of theirs to really know? Although to be honest I am curious about ethnicities and stuff, too, haha. I like knowing stuff like that about people. Ethnicities, siblings, DOB, etc. I don’t know why… but I’m not intrusively nosy about it. I’ll find out eventually by accident, which I’m fine with. And if I never know? Also perfectly fine. Maybe the curiosity is part of human nature. It’s not their faults either entirely. I think it’s like… just be more aware? Better educated maybe? Be sensitive to others?? :\ But sometimes they ask it so randomly and so early on in the relationship that I’m like… why. Lol…. In this day and age, it’s bordering on the inexcusable. People should know better by now.

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      4. Same. I don’t feel like I completely belong in the U.S. or in Asia. 😐 I too am curious about people’e ethnicities, especially it’s not terribly accurate to guess what someone is. A couple of times I’ve had people assume I can speak Spanish and I’m not totally sure why. Something to do with my looks? But I would rather learn about the person’s ethnicity if I got to know him/her better and the person talks about it in their own time. Asking feels intrusive and puts people on the spot…

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      5. Yeah exactly! I’d just wait for the person to mention it or something along the way of our friendship or relationship rather than ask because I know it’s not really my business. I’ve had Filipinos excitedly ask me quite often if I’m Filipino, but then one Filipino told me they all tend to think other Asians are Filipino xD which is amusing and kind of cute I guess!

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  2. I read your guest post over there, Nat. It was such as well-written narrative and the words flow along so well 🙂 Reading it, it seemed that you were anxious but you held yourself together and you stood up for yourself very well. That guy sounded rather aggressive in the space of a few minutes. Clearly he didn’t get the message you weren’t interested in the beginning. Maybe he thought you being relatively quite and curt responses was shyness or that he just assumed you were someone who didn’t speak very much.

    It was interesting how you noted that if anyone who walked by, they might have assumed the two of you were friends talking. That would be such a scary presumption, no one knowing that you were in an uncomfortable situation and situation where things could have taken a turn for the worse. For instance, he could have become physically violent and who knows if he had friends around, and fortunately in this case it didn’t sound like it. That’s why when I am out alone I usually rather not be approached by anyone. Sure they can be nice ones asking for directions but tyou just don’t really know what some of them are after. One time I went to the beach alone to enjoy some nice summer weather. This guy came up to me and within five minutes of chatting invited me back to his home. I said no, and got on a semi-packed tram to head back into the city. The guy followed along and sat with me for most of the way and tried to get my number, passing my his phone. I declined but he insisted and I put in a fake number. He still sat with me and thankfully got off two stops before my stop D: The whole time I was panicking inside, trying to work out what to do in my head when I got to my stop and if he still followed me.

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    1. Thank you for reading my post, Mabel, and I’m glad you liked it. 🙂 Aggression in a guy I just met is such a no-no. Just the way he told me that I was going to give him my number set off alarms in my mind right away.

      Yes, thankfully he did not have any friends around to back him up. I was also relieved he left with no big fuss right after I rejected his advances. Your experience sounds scary though. I mean, you already said no and if he was respectful of that he would have not pushed you no matter how much he wanted to change your mind. I have a similar story from something that happened to me recently, except I think the guy was not a bad person. Maybe I will blog about it in a future post.

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      1. I hope to hear about your other encounter in a future blog post – whenever you are ready or if you want to share. Sometimes can interpret you differently or see you in a different way compared to how you think of yourself. I’m guessing you would have some plans to get out of a situation if the person wouldn’t leave you alone.

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